Joe Alwyn is to Hulu’s upcoming Conversations with Friends collection what Paul Mescal and his legendary chain had been to 2020’s Normal People: the attractive, stifled, not-infrequently bare love curiosity in a Sally Rooney adaptation. But whereas Alwyn (artfully!) bares loads of pores and skin within the present, premiering May 15, he has revealed little or no about his notable real-life function as Taylor Swift’s boyfriend—as has been the couple’s apply.
“If I had a pound for every time I think I’ve been told I’ve been engaged, then I’d have a lot of pound coins,” Alwyn informed The Wall Street Journal Magazine amid resurgent rumors that he and Swift, who’re believed to have been collectively since 2016, had been getting married. Secret-wedding hypothesis has additionally circulated throughout Swift and Alwyn’s relationship resulting from shut (mis-)reads of her “Lover” lyrics: “Ladies and gentlemen, will you please stand? / With every guitar string scar on my hand / I take this magnetic force of a man to be my lover.”
Alas, Swift and Alwyn would very very like to be excluded from the narrative of excavating the small print of their relationship. “I mean, the truth is, if the answer was yes, I wouldn’t say, and if the answer was no, I wouldn’t say,” Alwyn informed WSJ interviewer Lauren Mechling, earlier than happening to make the extremely prescient level that what’s now thought-about intensely non-public habits was once merely residing one’s life, freed from the vulture-clutch of social media. “We live in a culture that people expect so much to be given. So that if you’re not posting all the time about what you’re doing, how you’re spending a day or how you made a breakfast, does that make you a recluse?” Alwyn mused. “I’d also like to feel slightly less guarded sometimes in interviews or in whatever kind of interactions, but it’s just a knee-jerk response to the culture we live in. If you give it to them, it just opens the door.” Alwyn’s feedback echo comparable statements from Swift in a 2019 interview with The Guardian: “I’ve learned that if I [talk about my relationship], people think it’s up for discussion, and our relationship isn’t up for discussion,” she said.
In an era of overzealous PDA, where tongue-touching has become the red carpet norm—to say nothing of the standard practices of staged paparazzi walks and cementing “Instagram official” standing—Alwyn and Swift’s dedication to privateness is uncommon, refreshing, and, frankly, sizzling? There’s one thing extremely romantic to me a few joint oath to carry on to what’s sacred a few relationship somewhat than inviting the world in, as even regular, non-famous folks continually do in performing their anniversaries on-line. How pleasant to be coy. Imagine, in 2022, leaving somewhat one thing to the creativeness! It’s giving Julia Roberts-decamping-to Taos-with-Danny Moder-energy. Like Roberts, Swift has reached an echelon the place doesn’t want to make use of her romantic relationships for publicity or image-crafting. Privacy: it’s additionally an influence transfer.